One of the great things about living in multi-racial, multi-cultural Singapore is the wide myriad of experiences we can give to our children. A big thank you to my great friend Priyanka for allowing us to be part of your Diwali celebrations for the third year now, and the first time Sophia got to play with rangoli which she totally enjoyed.


More green fingers attempt

Sophia was not a fan of the sunflower greens so I’ve stopped growing them. Also the second batch wasn’t all that successful, kind of droopy.

I’ve moved on to caixin (or mustard greens I think they are called in English). The sppearance of sprouts is promising. Here’s hoping they grow well and we can have home grown organic caixin to eat from time to time!


Sisters love

Phew. The “landslide” elections are finally over and I am reasonably happy with the results. Meanwhile though, it feels like I have missed out on so much of my children’s growing up.

Sandra can now sit well, crawl, climb over things, and has developed a really love for carbo. To be more precise, starchy carbo. She’s loving bao, bread, rice, biscuits but not so much meat or uncooked fruits (other than banana). Pumpkin and carrots are mood-dependent. Same with steamed and puréed fruits.

Sophia has moments of caring for the Mei Mei, which can be cute, though the attention span lasts for all of 2 minutes, if that.


Sunflower greens

I haven’t posted for a long time. I guess with a second child there is just less time but also things just seem less exciting. Anyway, we finally started doing something new. We started gardening on a small scale. 

We got a small hydroponics kit from pocket garden and started growing sunflower seeds. These things are supposed to be incredibly easy to grow but even then probably only 1/3 of the seeds grew to a size that can be harvested. I think it’s because we traumatized the young shoots to much with daily change of water out of fear or added mosquito growth and also mould etc. Still, I think we have enough for one salad serving.

I think they will be ready to be harvested in a day or two!

Am I the only one who finds this ad condescending?


The “No chilli; no eat” tag line was clearly targeted at identifying with Singaporeans. However, with my profound *ahem* knowledge of Singlish, I declare it improper Singlish in that nobody in Singapore actually speaks like that. It smacks of the arrogant air or the foreigners who hop on a taxi and say “Bukit Timah lar”. Totally wrong use of lar which, contrary to popular belief, is not meant to be added to every Singlish sentence.

For the avoidance of doubt, I am not anti foreigners. There are arrogant foreigners just as there are snotty Singaporeans, both are equally deplorable. I’m just saying the creator of this ad falls on the arrogant side, which I am finding more amusing than anything.

How best to support breastfeeding mothers

A friend posted an article about IBM shipping breastmilk home for employees.

I’m undecided as to whether this is good news or not. For sure, if it is a choice between pump and dump or the opportunity to ship breastmilk back to baby, then yes of course shipping it back is better. But this reminds me of an article I read recently about exclusively pumping being almost (but actually not quite) as good as latching. The article says that with breastpumps getting better and better these days, mothers feel it is ok to pump and feed even though with a bit more effort they could have latched more, and that results in the child missing out on intimacy with mum and other small benefits like lower risk of ear infection (I am probably misquoting, but my takeaway after reading the article was this). Again, here if the choice is between going over to formula because the mum has to work or just cannot latch, then of course we want great pumps that make EPing possible. The concern, however, is whether all these technology and services are actually making it easy (“enabling”) mothers to spend less time with their children and/or provide them with the other benefits of direct breastfeeding. Should companies, instead of thinking along the lines of “how can we allow women to work in as similar a way as possible as men have all along without having to feel guilty” instead really think along the lines of “how can we help the mother provide the best for their children while working”. I’m thinking allowing them to take a break from travel the first year or two of their children’s lives without penalising them. I’m thinking having creche at work and allowing mothers to go and breastfeed children at feeding times. I’m thinking allowing mothers the option of unpaid maternity leave. And there are many other things I have not thought of. Ultimately, all these initiatives and technology are good in that they provide a better option than the worst case scenario. But the alternative that they provide is not the ideal one from the child’s perspective. I am grateful for pumps and nursing rooms and breastmilk shipping service but I do hope that more employers can think along the lines of facilitating breastfeeding in as natural a way as possible.

What do you think? Am I asking too much?